本文探討在家庭關係中親密和距離之間的拉鋸衝突。本文立論於Baxter 與Montgomery（1996）的關係矛盾理論之上，分析了28位台灣同志對於自身家庭關係的個人敘述，以探討為何他們選擇不對家人出櫃、為何他們訴說著親密的家庭關 係卻在行為上跟家庭保持距離，以及他們如何在論述中協調這樣的矛盾。本文使用持續比較法及論述分析的多方發聲方法來分析深入訪談資料。結果顯示，對於這些參與者來說，「親密」是有多層意義的。此外，他們能夠使用「功能性的模糊」，意即將各種衝突視為相容的心理過程，來避免心理的不適感或者避免改變行為。本文根據這些個人論述的分析來建立「功能性的模糊模型 」，以了解人們如何處理關係中的衝突與矛盾。

This study examined the contradictions of closeness and distance that exist in family relationships. Based upon relational dialectical theory (Baxter & Montgomery, 1996), the study examined the personal narratives of 28 Taiwanese LGBTQ individuals to understand why they chose to remain closeted in their family, how and why they reported having a close family relationship while engaging in behaviors that indicate otherwise, and how they accounted for such contradictions. The in-depth interview data was analyzed using constant comparative technique and multivocality discourse analysis technique. The results showed there were multiple meanings of closeness to the participants. Also, they were able to resort to functional ambiguity— a mental process that reconciles contradictory forces as compatible in one’s relationship— to avoid mental discomfort or behavioral change. The study proposed a model of functional ambiguity based on the analysis of the personal accounts to understand how people deal with relational dialectics.